Jesus made a powerful statement when He said, "...a man's life consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth" (Luke 12:15). In other words, a man is not what he has. That is not what the world teaches. That is not what many were taught at home or in school.
Do you know how many people today rate their life and fulfilment based on what they have? Many tie their worth to possessions. We live in a world where people are rated by what they own. Imagine being raised in that kind of culture—being placed under unnecessary pressure. Most people want to measure up. They work and save to buy a big phone just to feel important and fulfilled. But such an upbringing is wrong. They've not been listening to Jesus. Jesus taught us differently. He said, "...a man's life consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth" (Luke 12:15).
Fulfilment is taught. It's not about what someone tells you; it's what you accept as fulfillment. A man is not what he has. A big car doesn't mean a big life. That's what Jesus says. The Bible also says, "Better is little with the fear of the LORD than great treasure and trouble therewith" (Proverbs 15:16).
Because of unhealthy pursuit of material things, some people have destroyed their lives. They define relationships by possessions. "I can never date a man who is not driving a car," they say. They don't think of purpose or the man's soul. They're simply after material things.
"If I must marry, it must be to a man who owns a duplex, a jeep, and another parked down," some say. Little do they know that by the time they marry this 'big man', they might become part of his destruction. Many don't understand fulfilment. They don't know what it really means.
Don't let anybody put you in a box or make you think you're useless because you're not married yet. Out of pressure, many have entered the wrong marriages just to please people who say things like, "She's 33 years old and still not married". Don't marry for other people at the expense of your peace, joy, and fulfilment. That's not wisdom. They think their problem at 33 is being unmarried, but the real problem is a lack of wisdom. That's the real issue. Look for wisdom first. When you have wisdom, then you can marry.
The fact that a person is getting married, primarily because of age shows that something is wrong. Obviously, that's a marriage heading for trouble, because when the reason is wrong, the result will also be wrong.
Listen to what Jesus said: your life cannot be measured by the amount of things you possess. Don't value yourself by what you have or who you know. The Bible says, "Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth" (Colossians 3:2). So how do you value yourself then? What makes a person count before God? What does God consider valuable? That's why we learn the Word—to understand true value.